Your Best Friend Has a Different Power Than You

One of you talks first. One of you thinks first. One of you would rather build something than talk about building it.

When you were younger you might have wished you were more like them. Almost everybody does that at some point. You look at the thing they do easily, and you look at how hard it is for you, and you draw the wrong conclusion.

Here is the right conclusion. You were not supposed to be the same. You were supposed to be next to each other.

I grew up on a street where everybody was different and nobody had the words for it. We just knew who to go to. If you needed somebody brave, you knew the house. If you needed somebody who would actually listen, different house. Nobody organised that. It organised itself, because that is what people do when they are near each other long enough.

A team of one kind of person is not a team. It is just a group with the same blind spot.

You are not the worse version of your friend. You are the other half of something, and neither half works alone.